CRH Blog Post #11, Advice to Parents, cont’d

Now that we’ve established the principle that your behavior and words as a parent matter in the recruiting process, it’s time to attach some specificity to this general rule of thumb. So, beginning today, we’re going to review some common parental mistakes that college coaches see as red flags.


College coaches hate it when you as a parent start complaining about your child’s high school coach (or club coach). First of all, it makes you seem like a know-it-all, since you’re not qualified to judge your child’s high school coach in the first place (and being a former player doesn’t make you “qualified” as a coach any more than being a private in the army qualifies you to be a general). Second, it makes you seem like a difficult parent (which, if you’re in the habit of talking poorly about your child’s high school coach, you in all likelihood are). But above all, you are openly undermining your child’s coach to a person who might one day be your child’s coach.


Now, it’s fine to be a difficult know-it-all with a habit of undermining your child’s coaches. However, with your child’s recruiting future at stake, we can not for the life of us figure out why you would want to confess these unfortunate personal traits to any and every college coach who calls.


College coaches don’t like know-it-all parents. College coaches don’t like difficult parents. And college coaches certainly don’t like parents who are in the habit of undermining their children’s coaches. So, given that college coaches don’t like parents who exhibit these personal traits, does it not make sense to keep your feelings about your child’s high school coach to yourself?


Thank you very much for reading. We will cover more advice for parents in tomorrow’s entry.

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